When I dropped my addictions and get some help to get off the heavy stuff, I got back on my feet. I started the dialogue again with my daughter in hopes of having a relationship with her. Sadly it seems my narcissistic mother has been behind the scenes feeding my daughter lies about me. So much so, that where once my daughter never doubted that I always told her the truth, is now replaced with doubt and disbelief in what I have to say.
My mother has now placed a wedge of doubt in my daughter's mind about me. She is now doing to me and my daughter what her mother did to her and her siblings: DIVIDE AND CONQUER. I see now she intends to COMPLETELY DESTROY any semblance of a relationship that I have with my daughter. And I know from reading about narcissist, that a narcissist will keep on doing this UNTIL THEY WIN.
I'm working so damn hard to heal from the trauma of my mother and my father AND keep a good relationship with my daughter. But it seems my narcissistic mother will have none of it and is intent on destroying anything good in my life to better herself.
I cried into my husband's arms today, of all days, because it dawned on me that I could quite possibly lose my relationship with my daughter all because of my mother and her narcissistic jealousy. The wedge of doubt in now in my daughter's mind where there was none before. I now can never not prove enough to my daughter on anything I say to her. Thanks to my mother, my daughter now will never see me as a truthful person ever again. AND THAT.... breaks my heart even further.
I don't know how to handle the divide and conquer that my mother has placed between me and my daughter. I don't know what to do anymore. Pulling out all the stops, my mother has indeed won. I just hope that it doesn't cost me the relationship of my daughter forever.