When we begin our healing journey, we start taking in information in order to help us heal. There's lots of it to ingest, digest, and process on a daily basis. While we are taking in that information, we are also learning to cope with emotions coming at us in all directions at any given moment. Coupled with having to still have responsibilities in our lives.
So all this is mind bending to say the least. All though we want to learn as much as possible, and heal as fast as possible, somewhere within ourselves a small voice speaks. And that voices tells us to "Slow down and take your time. It's gonna take some time to undo all the harm that was given to us."
When that voice speaks up, we gotta listen. There's only so much we can ingest, digest, and process on a daily basis. We have to allow ourselves the time to process even a sliver of information. Sometimes a sliver of information comes with many attachments that we have to also take into consideration.
So what we can do is be kind to ourselves. We gotta try to remember that some days, it will feel like we are making strides in our recovery. Other days, not so much. It's those other days that we have to have. Those days are the times our mind and our body says to us "Hey...today is the day that we just do nothing. We need time to relax and recoup." And so, we do just that. Sometimes it will be for a day. Other times, it could last weeks or months. Regardless of how long we go down, we need to take that time. After all, we can't make our body and mind do something it absolutely doesn't want to do.
When we are in our downtime, we need to pamper ourselves and give ourselves what we need. And what we need is ME TIME. Me time can consist of anything. For some that are able? Going outside. For others like myself, staying in bed with a book and not doing much of anything else. Or for others, having a crying day. Sometimes I need a crying day. As a child I was never allowed to show what was going on inside me - that meant not showing sorrow or hurt on my face.
So I will spend a day of not doing anything but cry off and on all day. I call that "cleansing day". I'm cleansing myself of the hurt and the pain and the sorrow. It's not always associated with a memory. Sometimes it's just raw emotions. And for me that's okay. I allow myself the time to let my feelings come out. Sometimes it will be just a day of doing that, other times, it's weeks on end. I just have to allow myself to just feel and let it come when it comes because as an adult, I don't have anyone in my life anymore telling me that I can't do that. --- Peri
So all this is mind bending to say the least. All though we want to learn as much as possible, and heal as fast as possible, somewhere within ourselves a small voice speaks. And that voices tells us to "Slow down and take your time. It's gonna take some time to undo all the harm that was given to us."
When that voice speaks up, we gotta listen. There's only so much we can ingest, digest, and process on a daily basis. We have to allow ourselves the time to process even a sliver of information. Sometimes a sliver of information comes with many attachments that we have to also take into consideration.
So what we can do is be kind to ourselves. We gotta try to remember that some days, it will feel like we are making strides in our recovery. Other days, not so much. It's those other days that we have to have. Those days are the times our mind and our body says to us "Hey...today is the day that we just do nothing. We need time to relax and recoup." And so, we do just that. Sometimes it will be for a day. Other times, it could last weeks or months. Regardless of how long we go down, we need to take that time. After all, we can't make our body and mind do something it absolutely doesn't want to do.
When we are in our downtime, we need to pamper ourselves and give ourselves what we need. And what we need is ME TIME. Me time can consist of anything. For some that are able? Going outside. For others like myself, staying in bed with a book and not doing much of anything else. Or for others, having a crying day. Sometimes I need a crying day. As a child I was never allowed to show what was going on inside me - that meant not showing sorrow or hurt on my face.
So I will spend a day of not doing anything but cry off and on all day. I call that "cleansing day". I'm cleansing myself of the hurt and the pain and the sorrow. It's not always associated with a memory. Sometimes it's just raw emotions. And for me that's okay. I allow myself the time to let my feelings come out. Sometimes it will be just a day of doing that, other times, it's weeks on end. I just have to allow myself to just feel and let it come when it comes because as an adult, I don't have anyone in my life anymore telling me that I can't do that. --- Peri