I also got learn to change the language in my head regarding this. I will still telling myself that I couldn't trust myself to accomplish anything in regards to my healing. But she told me that I was wrong and that I just didn't look at things correctly.
I talked about how at the beginning of the month, I turned off my "fear" switch because there was stuff I was needing to gone around the house for a HUD housing inspection. As long as that fear still controlled me, I just couldn't get anything done. So I turned it off.
She said that when I turned the switch off, I was in fact doing something for myself - I just didn't see it that way. Wow! Talk about an eye opener! It was at that moment that I realized that not only did I step out of my "comfort zone", but I took a chance on trusting myself and my decisions! Another wow moment!
So I went through everything I accomplished: I turned off my "fear switch", I came out of my "comfort zone" to get the house ready for inspection, I created a blog/website, I ordered and got in "Courage To Heal" by Ellen Bass, I started spending more time out of bed, I have eliminated negative toxic people out of my life (yes, that meant all of my family members), I have been doing more around the house each week, I am able to do self-care when I feel I need it, and feel a little like a human being again.
Don't get me wrong, I knew I was someone I just didn't believe in her and didn't think I could accomplish anything in my life any more. Which is why it's important that I keep track of my good days when they come. That way, when I'm having my down times, I can reflect on all that I've accomplished and done in my life.